|Hub's grandfather Bert Holden 1918-2000|
* Do you throw your hands up in the air and exclaim "That's it! I give up!"
* Do you slump down in your chair, hang your head and moan "Woe is me, all my hard work down the drain"
* Do you pump your first and yell "Yippee - what fun! Now I have a whole new line to trace!"
* Do you take a deep breath, pause, and then calmly say to yourself "I better be really sure about this before I venture off on a new tangent"
Hubs and I faced this dilemma a year or so ago, and opted for reactions 3 and 4. It can happen for many reasons. It can be quite dramatic such as an illicit birth or it can be very mundane - human error. Perhaps there was a hidden affair - a baby born to a married couple but not the husband's child. Perhaps you, the researcher, simply made an assumption that turned out to be incorrect.
|Elsie Markham Holden|
hubs' great-grandmother 1898-1993
We weren't shocked, or horrified, and we did not judge his great-grandma. Why would we? We don't know if she hid the truth from her husband or she told him. We don't know the circumstances but we did feel a twinge of guilt that her long-held secret was now out. She certainly hid it from her children and grandchildren but here we were uncovering it and exposing it to the universe.
But I confess that most of what I felt was excitement at having an entire new line of people to find for hubs.
We've spent quite a bit of time now on Bert's new paternal lineage (Cooper). We know his father was one of two men who were nephew and uncle, so we have a two-pronged research. I don't know if we will ever know for sure which man was the father but we have a theory.
As for our original research into the wrong family (Holden), I've saved it all in case anyone is ever looking for the family in Ontario. I have a lot I can share!
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