Determined to focus on what happened to poor Sarah's sons - Ebenezer the
child born at sea en route to Australia in 1867, William, Charles and
Edward, I set aside the other wonderful clues in Sarah's Death
Registration.
More help poured in from Australians who had read my query. The first
item to arrive was the death registration index for little Ebenezer.
Sending off for the certificate revealed that on 8 Oct 1867, Ebenezer
Sydney STEAD, male 5 months old, born at sea, the son of William Stead
and Sarah Elvery, died of consumption and was buried the next day at
Haslam's Creek cemetery.
Poor William Stead and his family! In the space of 5 months he lost his
wife, 31 year old Sarah Elvery, and his newborn son Ebenezer. There he
was, living at his brother Edward's home in Sunny Corners (near Sydney),
a widower with 4 children under the age of 7. What choices he was faced
with! Stay in Australia? Return to England? He must have agonized over
how he would care for all his children.
Research into Sunny Corners, where his brother Edward was living with
his wife and young family, showed it to be very isolated. Presumably
William knew no one other than his brother Edward. He would need a job,
but who would care for his children while he worked and where would he
find one? I knew he returned to England, as he remarried there one year
later (November 1868). But which children besides my great grandmother
Sarah did he take back with him? And who did he leave behind?
After a rather lengthy exchange of responses to my original query, and
me sending off to Australia for certificates, and searching the 1881
English census (which was not online at that time) I had my answers.
Edward Stead, living in Sunny Corners, had a pregnant wife and 3 young
children when his newly widowed brother William arrived with his 4 young
children and a newborn infant. Edward's one year old daughter Alice had
recently died and while William was living with the family, Edward's
one year old son Edward Jr. also died.
When William's infant son Ebenezer died 5 months later, William makes
his choices. It must have seemed very fitting for William to leave HIS
one year old son Edward with his brother Edward. Edward's one year old
son Edward Jr is dead, now he is being given his one year old nephew,
also named Edward. But William only brings two of his four children back
to England with him. He also leaves his 8 year old son William Jr with
his brother Edward. Thus Edward and his wife (whose name is also Sarah,
the same as William's wife) are left with two of Edward's nephews -
William (called Will) age 8, and little Edward, one year old.
And so my great great grandfather William Stead returned to Kent England
with my great grandmother Sarah age 5 and her older brother Charles age
7. I do not know if the families had contact over the years. Did
William ever see his children left in Australia again? What is known is
that little Edward left behind, married and had a family but died as a
young man. The older brother Will appears to have also died as a young
man, and never married.
Years later I found the descendants of little Edward, who thought that
their ancestor Edward was the natural son of Edward and his wife Sarah.
But they were puzzled by a photograph (a CDV taken in the mid 1860's) of
a young woman which had been passed on down in the family from little
Edward. On the back was written "your mother Sarah Stead nee Elvery".
They knew that Edward, the undertaker living in Sunny Corners, was
married to Sarah Bailey, so who was this Sarah Elvery?
For those who have been reading all Parts of Abandoned in Australia, you
will recall that my grandmother also had a CDV taken mid 1860s given to
my great-grandmother by her father William Stead (husband of Sarah
Elvery) with the words on the back "your mother Sarah". Yes it was the
identical photograph. William Stead must have given each of his children
that photo of their dead mother. And so almost 130 years later two
families' mysteries were solved.
The descendants of little Edward, left behind in Australia, learned that
his parents were William Stephen Stead and Sarah Elvery. Edward had
been left at the age of one with his uncle Edward Crunden Stead,
undertaker living in Sunny Corners Australia, and his wife Sarah Bailey,
and raised as their own.
And I finally found out what happened to poor Sarah Stead nee Elvery -
my great great grandmother. She died at the age of 31 a few weeks after
giving birth to a son on board the ship Light Brigade, just before it
docked at Sydney Harbour Australia in May 1867.
I also discovered that family lore in this case turned out to be fairly
accurate - great great grandpa William Stead left 2 children, Will and
Edward, behind in Austrlia, to be raised by his brother Edward Crunden
Stead. He returned to England with my great grandmother Sarah Stead, and
her older brother Charles. Charles went on to marry and raise a family
and I am now in touch with his descendants as well.
An added note to the tragic story of William Stead and his wife Sarah
Elvery - after I was able to obtain census records for the family in
England, I discovered that William was deaf. Years later another
descendant sent copies of the family bible which stated that William, my
great great grandfather, fell ill with measles at a young age and was
left completely deaf. And so now his story takes on even more of a
tragic overtone (if that is possible!)
A young newly widowed William in Australia in 1867 with 5 young children
under the age of 7, facing difficult choices when his baby dies a few
months later - and being completely deaf - what other choices did he
have? Finding work would have been extremely difficult I suspect. I used
to wonder how he could leave his sons behind. But now I think I have a
partial understanding of his actions and believe that it must have been
one of the most difficult choices he was ever faced with. I only hope he
was able to see his two sons again but I've found no record of William returning to Australia or his sons sailing to England.
See all 4 parts in the series
Abandoned in Australia
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